So, as I said in one of my recent posts, I started seeing someone about a month ago. And no, this post isn’t really about that. Well, it is. Sort of. Not really. Just read it. Anyway! A few weeks ago we had our first “real” date planned out – we were going to go see the new LEGO movie, and then go out for dessert and/or drinks after. Well, the night before our date, I checked the weather. And I was not pleased.
I was not pleased because the night of our date, there was supposed to be a huge snowstorm. In the middle of March. Which isn’t totally unheard of where I live in Canada, but it’s not super common either. It hadn’t snowed for two whole weeks…and the night Mother Nature decides to dump all her glorious white fluff on us just happened to be the night I had my first real date in over a year. What the heck?!
I was not pleased. I texted F. (that’s what I’ll call him) and told him there was a chance it’d snow the next day. He told me he heard the same thing, but we should just wait and see. The weather channel isn’t always reliable, right?
Well, the weather channel WAS reliable. And we got over 25 cm of snow that day. Horrible road conditions, ice, snow, whiteouts. The whole shebang. I stared out my window and sighed. There was no way he’d be able to drive all the way to my house in this weather, he lives an hour away. It wouldn’t be safe.
“I knew something bad was going to happen. I knew this date wouldn’t work out. I can never have any fun! Nothing good ever happens to me.”
These awful, ungodly thoughts would not go away. I, apparently, enjoy pity parties. After a while though, I was fed up with myself. If I didn’t even enjoy spending time with me, what would this guy think? How can I stop being so negative?
I stopped being so negative by just stopping. I changed the way I thought. I realized that yes, this situation sucks. It’s okay to be disappointed. It’s okay to be let down. It’s okay to be sad and maybe even a little mad. But it’s not okay to wallow in pity and let one sucky situation ruin my entire day.
“This is the day that the Lord has made,
We will rejoice and be glad in it.”
Even though the situation was not ideal, I decided to make the best of it. So, I suggested we have a Skype date instead. Both of us were, obviously, disappointed, but we ended up Skyping for over 3 hours! I realized later that having that talk with him online made me more comfortable the next time we hung out, when we finally had our “real” date.
So, yeah. Bad things happen…obviously. I usually deal with these situations poorly. But I was really proud of myself for overcoming my negative mind, and making the best out of a crappy situation.